* Something that's always helped me: if you're telling yourself you're just 'being realistic' when you're shitty to yourself, you gotta remember that everything is BOTH good and bad, so if you're getting only the bad in your self-critique, you're not actually being realistic. The good stuff is essential to being realistic. You have to realistically know what you're good at to progress.
Like. Uh. A specific example. Is that when I edit someone's work, it's actually super crucial to tell them what's good about it. Because I zero-percent want them to accidentally change something that's good/excellent/working to something worse because they don't know it's good and don't know why it's good. (My early editing attempts with someone who also did not know how to take edit notes ended up with dishwater-bland garbage fiction, so like...this is absolutely crucial of a thing to learn for both an artist and a critiquer (and DOUBLY especially for your internal critic).) You ARE doing things right!!! You have to admit it to yourself. The good absolutely cannot be skipped.
Maybe go through a thing you are critical about and actively and deliberately think of stuff you did right/well/good?
* The habits I return to most readily are the ones I've made an effort to eliminate negative feedback from? I get positive emotion from doing them and I do not feel stress if I miss doing them because I know that I can do them when I next have time. So like. I GET grit and quit, but also grit is a long game made of small moments of grit. You don't have to grit the whole thing all at once. It's a habit, not a project with an end goal/date/etc. I think the 'tiny habit' thing sounds like a great thing to revisit, because that's exactly what you need. And didn't the 'only do 10xp a day on duo' work better for actually doin' the language thing?
* I guess I don't...quite understand FOMO, though that's probably because I'm a little bit fatalistic about the fact that I will always be left behind, so there's no reason to stress about it. I just...physically and mentally cannot keep up, so only the important things are allowed my attention. I think...........well. You know. If 'not keeping up' is an obstacle and you find yourself going back to it again and again, then you brainstorm ways to solve that particular problem, yanno? What do you actually care about? What is important to you? If it's not important, then why do you care? (etc and so on) And then come up with a creative solution on that isn't 'consume more stuff.' You CAN'T consume more stuff, so that's not a solution.
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Date: 2022-10-17 03:21 am (UTC)* Something that's always helped me: if you're telling yourself you're just 'being realistic' when you're shitty to yourself, you gotta remember that everything is BOTH good and bad, so if you're getting only the bad in your self-critique, you're not actually being realistic. The good stuff is essential to being realistic. You have to realistically know what you're good at to progress.
Like. Uh. A specific example. Is that when I edit someone's work, it's actually super crucial to tell them what's good about it. Because I zero-percent want them to accidentally change something that's good/excellent/working to something worse because they don't know it's good and don't know why it's good. (My early editing attempts with someone who also did not know how to take edit notes ended up with dishwater-bland garbage fiction, so like...this is absolutely crucial of a thing to learn for both an artist and a critiquer (and DOUBLY especially for your internal critic).) You ARE doing things right!!! You have to admit it to yourself. The good absolutely cannot be skipped.
Maybe go through a thing you are critical about and actively and deliberately think of stuff you did right/well/good?
* The habits I return to most readily are the ones I've made an effort to eliminate negative feedback from? I get positive emotion from doing them and I do not feel stress if I miss doing them because I know that I can do them when I next have time. So like. I GET grit and quit, but also grit is a long game made of small moments of grit. You don't have to grit the whole thing all at once. It's a habit, not a project with an end goal/date/etc. I think the 'tiny habit' thing sounds like a great thing to revisit, because that's exactly what you need. And didn't the 'only do 10xp a day on duo' work better for actually doin' the language thing?
* I guess I don't...quite understand FOMO, though that's probably because I'm a little bit fatalistic about the fact that I will always be left behind, so there's no reason to stress about it. I just...physically and mentally cannot keep up, so only the important things are allowed my attention. I think...........well. You know. If 'not keeping up' is an obstacle and you find yourself going back to it again and again, then you brainstorm ways to solve that particular problem, yanno? What do you actually care about? What is important to you? If it's not important, then why do you care? (etc and so on) And then come up with a creative solution on that isn't 'consume more stuff.' You CAN'T consume more stuff, so that's not a solution.