This is all too familiar. I remember the night I finally got my Masters degree. My (now) wife wanted to celebrate, but my first response was exactly that "anyone could do this if they just put the time, in fact I didn't even graduate summa cum laude". Wow. The realization that I have done this to myself in every single achievement in my life gave me whiplash. Not to mention how I made other people feel when they just wanted to celebrate together with me. Of course blaming myself on this is not the way. This will just lead me into a viscious cycle of self-hate and neglect.
Okay so my VERY FIRST thought? Go get yourself some cake.
I'm absolutely dead serious. Go out and fucking celebrate, like right now, and explicitly make it 'I fuckin' graduated, hell yes, I did a THING and it's AWESOME.' And honestly I think you should celebrate everything for a while. Just. All the little triumphs. Nothing too small. Fixed a thing in the bathroom? TIME FOR CAKE. (Or one of those cute macarons.) Maybe bust out a candle. Or the fancy glasses for some sparkling refreshment of some kind.
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Date: 2023-03-09 09:06 pm (UTC)Okay so my VERY FIRST thought? Go get yourself some cake.
I'm absolutely dead serious. Go out and fucking celebrate, like right now, and explicitly make it 'I fuckin' graduated, hell yes, I did a THING and it's AWESOME.' And honestly I think you should celebrate everything for a while. Just. All the little triumphs. Nothing too small. Fixed a thing in the bathroom? TIME FOR CAKE. (Or one of those cute macarons.) Maybe bust out a candle. Or the fancy glasses for some sparkling refreshment of some kind.